And this brings me to my purpose – it’s a fun story, and is a real and un-edited account of my day, but there are underlying pot-hole, road-block, and full on traffic accident type of events that truly dictate how each day unfolds.
ADHD, depression, Tourette’s, rotational camp work, relationships, COVID, irritability, fatigue, defiance, OCD, fear, country living, tears, loneliness, therapy, indecision, and a whole gamut of other factors that must be regularly considered, accounted for, and/or overcome, to simply make it through the day in one piece.
It’s a lot. And based on what I’m hearing and seeing around me, I’m not the only one trying to navigate and keep afloat in the messiness. Fortunately, what I’ve learned this year, is
If you learn some basic cognitive, social, and emotional skills to help you manage the hard times, it’s a lot easier to enjoy the good ones.
Somehow though, despite all the ‘messy,’ I find myself feeling better in recent months than I have in years. And I think I feel better because I’ve gained a deeper understanding of myself, what’s happening within and around me that contributes to how I feel, and I’ve developed some skills and abilities to help me manage all of the chaos. Skills and abilities that I hadn’t realized were necessary, or that they were missing from my repertoire.
For the past 15 years, I’ve been working in a profession that’s dependent on understanding human behavior and the intricacies of building interpersonal relationships. I’m also 2.5 years into my Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology trying to better understand why we are the way we are, and why we do the things we do. In the past 3 years I’ve been diagnosed and treated for both ADHD and depression, changing my entire perspective and outlook on life. And I want to share my experience, knowledge, and insight into human behavior, growth and development, in hopes of helping others.
I feel as though we’ve lost connection with ourselves, our neighbors, and our communities – and not just due to COVID isolation. Technology, social media, and the fast pace of life made things messy long before the pandemic. Sure, sometimes people suck, and sometimes we suck too.
But I’m banking on the fact that if we all become just a little more self-aware, and develop just a little more empathy for the unseen struggles being faced all around us, we could all start to suck just a little less.
A step in the right direction toward helping us all evolve into our best selves – becoming better today, than we were yesterday. What a world it could be if we all joined forces and simply worked to become better today!